TattleTale:

No one is asking you for sympathy or for long ass drawn out sermons, Reading through your posts and they have ALL been disrespectful and degrading toward black women.

So you love white women? who cares? We are ALL entitled to our own choices, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.
But sometimes if we are know what is about to come out of our mouths aren't pleasant, I suggest we keep our traps shut, Silence is golden!!!!

Contiune to "rant" and "rage" and sing your praises Davidylan, remember Rome was NOT built in ONE day!!

PS, 30-40 years are the ideal period for marriage, at least by then you would have accomplished everything you need, thus not being labelled as a non-achiever,

Have fun with your white girls, I hope you have already set up your "Botox Fund trust""

Another long tale signifying nothing but stereotype. Where are the posts that have been degrading toward black women? My mom, aunts, cousins, friends, ex-girlfriends have all been black, someone must be reading things upside down.
If anyone is ranting and raging here it must be you, if you notice this thread had been going peacefully until you butted in with your diatribe. Is anyone still wondering why you are lashing out in frustration? I'm sure the reason is crystal clear.

And NO, i love white women just the same way i love every other individual male, female, black, white or green. There is nothing special to white skin.

I'm done with this thread, its annoying the way others just expect to force their ideas down the throats of others. You claim i have been degrading to black women, and i read your own posts and i see how well you esteem black men!

30-40 yrs are the "ideal" period for marriage according to who? Because you say so? By that age reasonable people are talking about putting kids through high school. Enjoy venting your frustration!

TattleTale:

No one is asking you for sympathy or for long ass drawn out sermons, Reading through your posts and they have ALL been disrespectful and degrading toward black women.

So you love white women? who cares? We are ALL entitled to our own choices, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.
But sometimes if we are know what is about to come out of our mouths aren't pleasant, I suggest we keep our traps shut, Silence is golden!!!!

Contiune to "rant" and "rage" and sing your praises Davidylan, remember Rome was NOT built in ONE day!!

PS, 30-40 years are the ideal period for marriage, at least by then you would have accomplished everything you need, thus not being labelled as a non-achiever,

Have fun with your white girls, I hope you have already set up your "Botox Fund trust""

AmerOmoge:

David you confuse me man, at times I think you understand and then other times you go back to being a "bad belle" why? abeg either love us or leave us!!! we don't need any more heartache and confusion jare!

But have we had a situation where a black brotha really goes in search of a black sister and she never gives in its only when she sees this black brotha with a white model dat she starts wanting him back.

Av seen a lot of time when black women take black brothas for granted cos they just think they are another looser, but when they see this looser with a white girl (whether beautiful or not) they turn around and call him names out of frustration. Am not taking sides but if we look at the situation realistically, i dont think am very wrong.

TattleTale:


the majority of these white girls would NEVER take you home to meet their parents.  And if they do, you MUST therefore have proven yourself to be an ASSET, rather than a liability.  You must have had accomplished enough to convinced their parents that you are NOT just another "black free loader" looking for an "easy" way out.

like you noted its interesting that its the very succesful men or the ones with great potential who are snagged up by the white women (who no like better thing!)
a lot of white girls are racists and fear black men. they get terrified when a black guy is walking behind them at night like they expect to be attacked. all of a sudden if he's rich or has potential he suddenly isnt that black anymore!
all of a sudden her parents love you since you have proven able to sit at their table and laugh at black jokes with them!  



you dont need to apologize for your views. and like you said we cant resurrect the dead when they come crawling back broke!  

davidylan:

Another long tale signifying nothing but stereotype. Where are the posts that have been degrading toward black women? My mom, aunts, cousins, friends, ex-girlfriends have all been black, someone must be reading things upside down.
If anyone is ranting and raging here it must be you, if you notice this thread had been going peacefully until you butted in with your diatribe. Is anyone still wondering why you are lashing out in frustration? I'm sure the reason is crystal clear.

And NO, i love white women just the same way i love every other individual male, female, black, white or green. There is nothing special to white skin.

I'm done with this thread, its annoying the way others just expect to force their ideas down the throats of others. You claim i have been degrading to black women, and i read your own posts and i see how well you esteem black men!

30-40 years are the "ideal" period for marriage according to who? Because you say so? By that age reasonable people are talking about putting kids through high school. Enjoy venting your frustration!

Have fun too. And All the best!
PS. I would NEVER dare push my opinions down others throat, NO NO NO, Not befitting of me at all. Just hate to see black men act as if they have no sense of appreciation towards black women, Ane Yes. as one poster mentioned, BLACK women look great when fat, unlike those pale wrinkled cows!!

Ikomi:

But have we had a situation where a black brotha really goes in search of a black sister and she never gives in its only when she sees this black brotha with a white model that she starts wanting him back.

Av seen a lot of time when black women take black brothas for granted because they just think they are another looser, but when they see this looser with a white girl (whether beautiful or not) they turn around and call him names out of frustration. Am not taking sides but if we look at the situation realistically, i don't think am very wrong.

who are these black women who are approached by succesful brothers or strong brothers with prospects and turn them down flat. show me who these sistas are. quit with that over used, tired excuse. it holds no water!

davidylan:

Another long tale signifying nothing but stereotype. Where are the posts that have been degrading toward black women? My mom, aunts, cousins, friends, ex-girlfriends have all been black, someone must be reading things upside down.
If anyone is ranting and raging here it must be you, if you notice this thread had been going peacefully until you butted in with your diatribe. Is anyone still wondering why you are lashing out in frustration? I'm sure the reason is crystal clear.

And NO, i love white women just the same way i love every other individual male, female, black, white or green. There is nothing special to white skin.

I'm done with this thread, its annoying the way others just expect to force their ideas down the throats of others. You claim i have been degrading to black women, and i read your own posts and i see how well you esteem black men!

30-40 years are the "ideal" period for marriage according to who? Because you say so? By that age reasonable people are talking about putting kids through high school. Enjoy venting your frustration!

If u get so angry at the name calling u might as well not be far from frustration urself.  

davidylan:

There is nothing special to white skin.

yes there is! are you friggin kidding me?

dayuuuuuuuuuum! this  thread is so funny and interesting ! "   "

spoilt:

who are these black women who are approached by succesful brothers or strong brothers with prospects and turn them down flat. show me who these sistas are. quit with that over used, tired excuse. it holds no water!

If u say there is none then ur not being entirely honest. I have friends who have been victims and i hve witnessed it. And surely u dont have to witness one to believe there must be.

And the major thing is dat most times this white men drop them, and move on, and if the white man does not drop her she must be fufiling all his fantasies or is very sucessful in her carrier. As much as I expect the men to be reasonable in this discussion, the women too must be moderate.

Ikomi:

If u get so angry at the name calling u might as well not be far from frustration yourself.

" "

Ikomi:

If u say there is none then your not being entirely honest. I have friends who have been victims and i hve witnessed it. And surely u don't have to witness one to believe there must be.

And the major thing is that most times this white men drop them, and move on, and if the white man does not drop her she must be fufiling all his fantasies or is very sucessful in her carrier. As much as I expect the men to be reasonable in this discussion, the women too must be moderate.

since when did ur friends become the yard stick? i think most women would pick a strong black brother before a white man. but when a black man approaches a sister its almost as if she should be thankful he's even looking her way.(think of all the white women he could have had!) they give you a whole list of do's and donts that they wouldnt dare present to white women.one strike and you're out.

Av got white friends dat walk up to me and say have u got some good black chicks for us. And before u know it they start telling u the kind of things they would like to do with them. But tell them wat u would like to do to there own, if one of them does'nt get up from the gathering someone would walk out. its a crazy situation.

Interesting & entertaing thread.

spoilt:

since when did your friends become the yard stick? i think most women would pick a strong black brother before a white man. but when a black man approaches a sister its almost as if she should be thankful he's even looking her way.(think of all the white women he could have had!) they give you a whole list of do's and donts that they wouldnt dare present to white women.one strike and you're out.

Honestly spoilt i think uv had some bad experience, and probably u met the wrong black dude.  

Ikomi:

Honestly spoilt i think uv had some bad experience, and probably u met the wrong black dude.

no. no bad experiences. black dudes always go on and on about how white women understand them and blah blah. but the way they approach white women is different. they approach them as if they are princesses. treat them well. but when its a black women. oh boy! no kid gloves. every little feminine fault is magnified. its irritating.

Ikomi:

If u say there is none then your not being entirely honest. I have friends who have been victims and i hve witnessed it. And surely u don't have to witness one to believe there must be.

And the major thing is that most times this white men drop them, and move on, and if the white man does not drop her she must be fufiling all his fantasies or is very sucessful in her carrier. As much as I expect the men to be reasonable in this discussion, the women too must be moderate.

Ummm what are you talking about here

I love it!! i love it the thread has taken on a life its own, because this is a serious issue in the black community across the African diaspora.  This is real talk here none of that manufactured let me tell you what I think you NEED to know crap.  

What we need to talk about is how we gonna mend this?

@ameromoge

you're right. we need to know the way forward. there's more to it than just a black man marrying a white woman. there's social issues, acceptance issues, racial issues, self esteem and ego issues involved at the expense of a whole race of women.

ameromoge can we chat sometime ?

spoilt:

no. no bad experiences. black dudes always go on and on about how white women understand them and blah blah. but the way they approach white women is different. they approach them as if they are princesses. treat them well. but when its a black women. oh boy! no kid gloves. every little feminine fault is magnified. its irritating.

I also think it has to do with the level of reasoning of the dude. You dont expect a man dat has never tasted youghurt b4 to compare it with mere pap. He could only see the that there is no difference after a long time. But sometimes his sences might not get matured enough 4 him to find out.

With that being said am sure of one thing. If white men found our black ladies so attractive that they will fall over themselves to have a black sista am sure a black brotha would not only have to build a sky scrapper to have a black sista, in a relationship, he would also have to boast he has being dining with the creator.

spoilt:

@ameromoge

you're right. we need to know the way forward. there's more to it than just a black man marrying a white woman. there's social issues, acceptance issues, racial issues, self esteem and ego issues involved at the expense of a whole race of women.

ameromoge can we chat sometime ?

U tell me the way forward, tell me that every black brotha would have an affirmative answer from a black sista whenever shes approached, then ad be sure ur talking bizness.

Spoilt we do need to get in touch  

Ikomi:

I also think it has to do with the level of reasoning of the dude. You don't expect a man that has never tasted youghurt before to compare it with mere pap. He could only see the that there is no difference after a long time. But sometimes his sences might not get matured enough 4 him to find out.

With that being said am sure of one thing. If white men found our black ladies so attractive that they will fall over themselves to have a black sista am sure a black brotha would not only have to build a sky scrapper to have a black sista, in a relationship, he would also have to boast he has being dining with the creator.

that may be true for some but again aint nothing like a black man, _{physically if you know what i mean} and otherwise.

Spoilt it has to start with black people learn or relearning to love there blackness it is must O!!!

This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

so white women are now yoghurt and black women pap? interesting. white ladies are seen as having ascended into the realm of half woman , half goddess. black men just dream and fantasize of trapping, catching, snagging, marrying one. its crazy retarded. white men really don't have a need to be seen with a black woman. if anything he gets crazy stares like "are you out of your mind"? it will look like he married beneath his status. not good for his reputation.

didnt you hear that the tennis player boris becker's wife (at the time he was married to a black woman) could never get the key to their five star hotel room when he was touring because they simply could not believe he was married to a black woman. she would have to wait in the lobby till he came back from wherever to rectify the situation. its annoying everyway you look at it.

nferyn:

This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

ROFLMAO "   " which goes to confirm what some of the girls on this thread have been saying!  

spoilt:

so white women are now yoghurt and black women pap? interesting. white ladies are seen as having ascended into the realm of half woman , half goddess. black men just dream and fantasize of trapping, catching, snagging, marrying one. its crazy retarded. white men really don't have a need to be seen with a black woman. if anything he gets crazy stares like "are you out of your mind"? it will look like he married beneath his status. not good for his reputation.

didnt you hear that the tennis player boris becker's wife. (at the time he was married to a black woman) could never get the key to their five star hotel room when he was touring because they simply could not believe he was married to a black woman. she would have to wait in the lobby till he came bak from wherever to rectify the situation. its annoying everyway you look at it.

nferyn:

This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

Spoilt no bring me out for sun oooh. I did not call anyone pap or yoghurt, its just an analogy.

But wat u all must understand in all this issue is dat black women cannot keep blamming black men or white women for there (if i am permitted "misfortunes" ). I have never seen anyone scale through by blaming others for there problems. I believe the black woman must be doing something not very right. First is the hair attachments. Most men love to see there women in there natural beauty but when u start looking artificial, for most responsible men its a turn off.

Ikomi:

First is the hair attachments. Most men love to see there women in there natural beauty but when u start looking artificial, for most responsible men its a turn off.

lmao now there you're on to something. I keep telling my wife to get rid of these attachments, but she won't listen

nferyn:

This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

because thats all they can get. those homely white women are called RESERVED FOR AFRICANS (behind their backs) ! they cant catch their fellow white men but a black man will gratefully snag them up and lick her crusty feet.  

these women dont have to be eductaed , well spoken or whatever as long as she's white, she'll do. at least when the black guy is pulled over by the cops during the usual offence of  DRIVING WHILE BLACK and the cops peep in and see a white woman in there he'll be let off. so you see she does have her uses.

nferyn:

lmao now there you're on to something. I keep telling my wife to get rid of these attachments, but she won't listen

y'all know we 've got kinky (curly) hair, that cant be managed easily so what are we supposed to do?

ikamefa:

y'all know we 've got kinky (curly) hair, that can't be managed easily so what are we supposed to do?

If u want long hair ika6 then tell me who ur trying to be like?

ikamefa:

y'all know we 've got kinky (curly) hair, that can't be managed easily so what are we supposed to do?

Braid it or keep it short, anything but those awful attachments. I first thought it was only me that complained about that because I'm a white Belgian, but apparently some black men don't find it very attractive either.

@ ikomi and nferyn

you have got to be kidding me. dont you see that because of the attention white women get with all that hair we assume that maybe if you can get those luscious flowing locks you can be better accepted. so we spend a fortune on fake hair from korea. black men dont even love our nappy hair. with all the hair extensions we still dont make the cut. think about  when that gloriously nappy hair is brought to light like the jackdaw. then you are labeled afrocentric, bohemian or whatever else. just for having your real hair.?

when ive worn my natural hair nappy as the day i was born what have i gotten from black brothers? "cant you get your hair done?"
i reply  "kunta, my hair is done! this is its natural texture. as if they dont know nappy hair when they see it.

Ikomi:

If u want long hair ika6 then tell me who your trying to be like?

nahhhhhhhhhh dont get me wrong ,i don't want long hair, i want to be able to manage my hair easily, i want hair i can shake-n- go in the mornings not spend five hour in front of the mirror trying to style my hair

and oh black women like tyra or naomi campbell who have consistently worn hair extensions from day one are seen as beautiful and intelligent. with your afro they think you are the mad ,unintelligent ,agressive  black woman who runs her mouth like they see on tv and is ready to cuss everyone out just by looking at her!
they judge you based on what's on your hair. of course some black guys think your nappy hair is pretty till they see fine straight long curly hair. then their mouths dry and they forget you exist.