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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Nigeriadondie: 4:11pm On Dec 09, 2022
Igiaruwe04:


Women don't feel loneliness. And they're comfortable not having sex for donkey years. Men are not wired like that
Says who.

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Elsueno: 4:12pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

sister U should not have confronted him at dis stage now, be very patient, join him there & normalised, when e sure say u dont get residency & correct job, then confront am with evidence before dump his a**

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Nobody: 4:13pm On Dec 09, 2022
Igiaruwe04:


This one has lost her husband to Nigerian woman in the UK who are looking for husband here and there.

On a serious note, body no be firewood and it's cold now, so he needs someone to warm his bed. If you truly love him, let him enjoy before you join him

Make she divorce am

I'm done giving marital advice

DIVORCE HIM OP

He doesn't deny you of anything, so why the fuse? If you no marry again, divorce him and save yourself, himself and ourselves with everybody's selves the urge to shalaye
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Britishpea: 4:13pm On Dec 09, 2022
Woman that’s a lonely environment. He has no family. No friends. No acquaintances. It is boring out there. So you think that he won’t feel bad sometimes knowing that he’s there in the cold to make life better for his family while he couldn’t even enjoy himself because he wants to remain loyal.

We are humans my dear. He’s a man. He watches movies. His John Thomas will sometimes control his thinking. Since 2021 he left you say! You are not losing your husband. He just wants to have some fun.

If I would say, you shouldn’t worry about it as long as the ties between you is still strong.
Lol married men who wake and sleep with their wives in Nigeria are on tinder, codedruns and InMessage disturbing girls. How much more of a lonely man in the UK. OVERLOOK THIS and act as if nothing happens. I bet your Friend that saw him. Oh by want to enjoy with him while it lasts. If he’s a wise man and he loves you, it won’t affect you in anyway.

Not justifying cheating but it is what it is!

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Kobojunkie: 4:14pm On Dec 09, 2022
Juoflife1:
Simple matter. Pretend you didn't see it, show him more love. When you get there, dump him and find another man.
ROFLMAO
cheesy cheesy grin grin cheesy grin cheesy grin

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by HomeTutorsPro: 4:15pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.
Damn!
That nigharr is crazy!
The bolded funny die.
So him no see social apps to socialise. Na dating app him wan go socialise.
Hmmmmmm...
Dude doesn't even know how to lie.
Me def wan go waterfront for Ukraine.
I'm not going to fight war ooo.
I'm just going to count the number of trees around.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by ORIAYO70(m): 4:15pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.



Madam no let ur friend scatter ur house,

Madam dating site does not mean anything even to me, as he said he is using it to socialize

Madam he do sent u money time to time.

Madam he told you soon u will join him,

What else do u want
No use ur hand pursue the guy. I beg u

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by na2016: 4:15pm On Dec 09, 2022
Igiaruwe04:


It's better you tell her the truth. She's naive. They've collected her husband simple. And there is no possibility of him choosing her when the man has moved on to white women over there.

Nigeria girls are boring

This is not true. Men rarely forget Thier wife especially if she has kids for him. Unlike women when they travel abroad. However, the man may be dating someone here now.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Kobojunkie: 4:16pm On Dec 09, 2022
Soulvein:
Appreciate your friend for telling you about her shocking discovery about your husband and tell her not to bring up the matter anymore because you have settled things with your hubby. Except, you are tired of your marriage, don't push this issue further. It's better not to imagine what your mind is telling you already because it will leave you heartbroken.
The truth is many men in his current situation will cheat not because they love to do so but because konji na very big bastard!
When you are done with NYSC, pack your bags and join him over there.
Seems this "truth" applies mainly with Nigerian men as men from other cultures elsewhere still have pride and value for themselves in marriage. undecided

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by callthefred: 4:16pm On Dec 09, 2022
The friend who told you this is surely one of the enemies of your happiness. That said, your happiness shouldn't be affected that something you can't control. How can you be sad over someone else's behavior?. Your husband is about to cheat and you're dying over that? Please get some thinking caps on. Just find a way to go meet him and the emotional attachment he craves would go down.

As for that friend, stay away from her. You'll thank me later.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by grandstar(m): 4:18pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau
When you want to dance, you go to a nightclub.

When you want to socialise you go to a.................

When you want to date, you go to a .................

Finish your NYSC and join your husband. I would even advise you to learn a skill such as hairdressing that can make you money in the UK during your NYSC

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by grandstar(m): 4:20pm On Dec 09, 2022
Dshocker:


Unlike the opposite, it is not in the nature of men to go abroad and dump their wife.

To me, i think you should have nothing to worry about.


Then, the issue is the cheating. He might continue after she arrives. She is an innocentee
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by RZArecta(m): 4:21pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.
to be honest, avoid that your friend. You and your husband will face many trials but nothing insurmountable, it is a fact of marriage. His being on dating app is bad but both of you should settle it inside the house and any decision you take should be done inside the house. Your UK friend is lonely just like other UK girls so she doesn't understand why you with access to correct guys in Nigeria are tying down a handsome man already in the UK. Call him, shout on his head well well but fire ahead with the marriage, your already at advantage with him and he knows how far if he should fūck up when you get there

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Nobody: 4:21pm On Dec 09, 2022
Smh. Wake up and smell the coffee - you married a bro-ho. He's already cheating by being on there and messaging women, that is, if he hasn't yet met any to sleep with them. He has no respect for your marriage and definitely none for you. I can't imagine being married to a loser who then joins a dating site. Say what now? Let a nigguh try me. Pfft.

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by justinaa2012: 4:22pm On Dec 09, 2022
My dear, he spoke the truth. Dating app is a norm in western world especially in uk. However, he’s doing it kos of loneliness and freedom of you not there but trust me once you guys reunite it will stop. Thank God you knows about it just increase your communication with him. I guess his conscience is judging him already. This is nothing to worry yourself about.

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by kaywhy09(m): 4:22pm On Dec 09, 2022
That's his side hustle

Or main workshop

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by kolexy(m): 4:23pm On Dec 09, 2022
dawnomike:
Do quick and go and join your husband... Shikena!!!

Perfect answer.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by BRATISLAVA: 4:23pm On Dec 09, 2022
palsenator:



Unfortunately for the female folks, it's the man's world. What we get away with as Nigerian/patriarchal men, they dare not attempt them. It's the unfair part of life

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by YeyeGbami: 4:24pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

And you think say na here the solution dey.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by etrouble: 4:25pm On Dec 09, 2022
I can't snitch on a fellow guy, so no comment
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Kobojunkie: 4:27pm On Dec 09, 2022
Dshocker:
Oni of ife is 10× more exposed than you are, but he got married to multiple wives.

Stop deceiving yourself, you want to drop your culture and adopt the white man's culture, claiming you are in the 21st century.
See foolishness! undecided

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Klass99(f): 4:27pm On Dec 09, 2022
sad
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Cutehector(m): 4:27pm On Dec 09, 2022
VeryWickedMan:
OP swear say you never Bleep since your husband left in 2021.
grin
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Fame1309(f): 4:31pm On Dec 09, 2022
Sometimes not everything a man does should consern the woman, woman should know that man will always be man.
NOTE,the minute you start putting eyes in his every activities the love he has for you starts dieing gradually.just be loving him and see everything starts going ur wish.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by FireUpNow(m): 4:32pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.
Continue living him try and join him in the UK because where there is a vacuum between husband and a wife anything can happen
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by jaxxy(m): 4:32pm On Dec 09, 2022
Jeon:


Wow just wow!

What happened to for better for worse! And why abusing God's vows in union if you knew that you can't stay faithful?



You Men really amaze me..
Then she can't stay celibate over here. She belongs to the man eventually




Stop saying nonsense and flee from extramarital affairs

Cheating is bad abd extramarital affairs is even worse bt a man can keep more than one wife or partner if it is made lawfully under any circumstances like olden days systems bt a woman can't keep more than 1 husband or partner in a sensible manner.

Should discuss with him take her mind of it and encourage him to be a good man who she knows he is.

There are smart non confrontational ways to handle a Cheating or erring partner.
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Igiaruwe04: 4:32pm On Dec 09, 2022
Igboslayer:
Just believe him and jejely find your way to the UK. You are investigating what will give you heart break... should I tell you the truth? He's there to satisfy his sexual urge, now take it off your mind, it does happen, be ready to forgive and get closer to him...you can't leave a man for too long and not expect something like that. The one wey dem dey monitor self still dey top rank.
Let's be honest. I'm a married man. You can't expect me to be in the UK one week without a woman beside me. Reality.

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by DMerciful(m): 4:33pm On Dec 09, 2022
You know he is saying the truth but arguing.
How many wives did the Ooni marry within 5 months? High class women o
Kobojunkie:
What century do you think you live in? undecided
Don't bother responding as I see you are not interested in speaking reasonably in this. undecided
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by pocohantas(f): 4:36pm On Dec 09, 2022
optm:
The comments from most men here are really disturbing. Why marry when you intend disrespecting the marriage by cheating? You not only disrespect your spouse but by that, you are breaking trust. Shame on the men that see nothing wrong in this. If reverse were the case, you would not advise in this manner.
Op truth is your husband has been a cheat before now and he would hardly change.
I do not know how you can get him to change except by strongly registering your displeasure and letting him know cheating is a deal breaker for you (if it is for you) and there would be consequences and part of which is you are willing to walk away from a union he doesn't respect (people are not really mindful when there are no dire consequences for their actions) or you decide save the marriage and live with it while keep praying for him to change.
You cannot change an adult unless they want to themselves.

Always good to see we still have a minute responsible men in this Nigeria. It is the fact that they can almost die trying to convince you that their randy pricks are the standard.

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by Kobojunkie: 4:36pm On Dec 09, 2022
DMerciful:
You know he is saying the truth but arguing.
How many wives did the Ooni marry within 5 months? High class women o
Making what sense? The way you folks define sense, someone would think logical rules are overturned once Nigeria is involved. undecided

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Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by mediclife1987(m): 4:37pm On Dec 09, 2022
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

Swear sey hand never touch you since your man comot.

You no want make the man release tension. You want make agro build mansion for inside him money.

Easy on the man dear, it's not easy being a man...
Re: My Husband Is On Dating App In The UK And Has Consistently Lied To Me by IamMobisola(f): 4:39pm On Dec 09, 2022
The marriage is in shambles already no doubt.
Just stay calm and don’t confront him anymore, round up your NYSC and join him there. When you get there, make sure you insist on using protection anytime he wants to come near you. Try to get a job no matter how menial it might be, be collecting money from him daily and save each penny. In between, Join dating apps and start looking for both young and old guys, enjoy yourself. When you are financially stable, dump his ass and move to another area. At least your effort in the relationship won’t be in vain.

If he trys to go physical on you, call the police and send him packing. The house will be given to you in court, remember western laws are more advantageous to women.

But if you insist on staying in the marriage, still join dating apps and have fun but be careful with STIs and STDs. If you end up getting pregnant, don’t bother about the paternity and just continue living.

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