Kobojunkie:
Why must she divorce him? She can also find herself a concubine or sidedick.

Kaycee54321:


I always tell my loved ones to try hard not to give a f.uck about what people say (except their employers, clients or loved ones) about them.
You're nice to let it slide oh. Anyways, I can be a bit of an extremist, so my opinion was leaning on her repaying evil with greater evil...

I really hope she's ok las las. I dey hate am when person dey take another person niceness for granted. "Lean on me" no be "press me die."

yinkeys:

Ok make the husband no know sha
Because if he know she will have to look for another husband sha

pocohantas:


Very true, but not always that easy when you are added to the statistics of Nigerian women that left their “nice husbands” after he took them abroad. Someone like me sef, I will take shege abroad than in Nigeria. My conscience would be dealing with me if I dare think of leaving him. Highest I would leave the UK for him and run back to Naija. Na wetin I fit do o.

Kobojunkie:
Oh, so it hasn't yet occurred to you that the reason the husband didn't tell the wife of his online dating site profile in the first place, going as far as to deny it after being caught, also has to do with him not wanting her to know sha?

leisuretym:
Your husband has betrayed you, if he send you money this week, reject the money, file for divorce and pack out of the house he rented in Nigeria, men are useless, you can get a better man in Lagos , Abuja or port harcourt , oil workers are everywhere looking for corpers to marry, return the car he bought for you , he’s not a reliable man, make sure you are pregnant for a Nigerian politician before you inform him, let him cry his eyes out.

yinkeys:
Seems you don’t know double standards exists in this world & women think they can pick and choose which they could benefit from
Na civilization Dey deceive many women
If na Stone Age & survival of the fittest times you think women will dare go for a peasant over a king

pocohantas:


Very true, but not always that easy when you are added to the statistics of Nigerian women that left their “nice husbands” after he took them abroad. Someone like me sef, I will take shege abroad than in Nigeria. My conscience would be dealing with me if I dare think of leaving him. Highest I would leave the UK for him and run back to Naija. Na wetin I fit do o.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

GloriousGbola:
A friends sister actually did this. She actually went to the embassy and asked them to revoke her papers because she was divorcing the guy. A real middle finger.

Kobojunkie:
Double standards exists only in the minds of those who don't value themselves at all.

The only reason a woman will remain with a serial cheater of a husband is because she does not value herself as an individual nor her kids. The moment that woman realizes she only fools herself by accepting less than she deserves, she can rise above that to better level of peace and happiness for herself and her children.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

yinkeys:

Read the complete texts
Someone provides you shelter, money, could die if you guys take a walk and die if danger is in the way etc and you still want more
She should divorce him & go find the complete guy

Kobojunkie:
She no get children?

yinkeys:

You’re busy speaking English because you don’t know the realities of this harsh world
Even a Ukrainian woman will not say this

GloriousGbola:
Marriage did not last a year.

Kobojunkie:
Again, your point makes no sense since we ain't discussing celibacy or complete abstinence but Marriage and what it means to be Married to those married.

kunle75:


You're too mean ooooo
To cut a head won't make the headache to go away ooo,out of those you suggested none would be better in the long run,what of after she take your advice and the new man starts committing adultery,what advice will you suggest to her again?

To move on to someone else?

Kobojunkie:
Realities of what harsh world? The same world where women now thrive better than the days of their fathers before them?

GloriousGbola:


A friends sister actually did this. She actually went to the embassy and asked them to revoke her papers because she was divorcing the guy. A real middle finger.

leisuretym:


Guy, I no send women! If she was the one with the good job or the money, she won’t be here to tell us all these stories, exactly my point.
She laid emphasis of the lucrative job he’s doing in the UK , she may not be able to use him as escape root to UK again, as a guy, I don’t owe any woman explanation , many of them are into hookup. Let the guy enjoy his life.

leisuretym:


Guy, I no send women! If she was the one with the good job or the money, she won’t be here to tell us all these stories, exactly my point.
She laid emphasis of the lucrative job he’s doing in the UK , she may not be able to use him as escape root to UK again, as a guy, I don’t owe any woman explanation , many of them are into hookup. Let the guy enjoy his life.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

yinkeys:

Many loyal mechanics and plumbers dey why she no reason those ones
Nigerian women don’t even know it’d be way harder to get a husband overseas because of culture and competition

IamMobisola:

But when women start engaging in paternity frauds, you all will cry fowl. Mtchww

ibkayee:

The way I'm hollerin'. You've got to give it to Naija men though, they'll come up with anything. Pro max gaslighters

Kobojunkie:
I think your friend went too far. She for hold on to the papers even after moving back to Nigeria.

pocohantas:


No respect at all. Just free for all…

It's crazy really and they would insist they love whom they cheat on. How that is possible I don't know.

IamMobisola:

But when women start engaging in paternity frauds, you all will cry fowl. Mtchww

pocohantas:


Later they say it is women that are manipulative. They would almost make you think you are mad or asking for too much.