Nataliace:
If I were you I would build first.
It's hard to find reasonable women like this nowadays.

Abeg, repeat am give am.

Bros look before you leap, building a house is a worthwhile project but you need to have the financial strength to embark on it. It also takes time to accomplish as its not an off the shelf activity. 250K support from her is a good sign but that's barely enough to get started. My advice is that you rent a flat first, get married, start a home together and then take things one at a time.

250k contribution to build house

If you accept that money, your case will be like igbos that came to Lagos and said they built Lagos

She will never let you have peace, she will say she built you and developed you

Some things don't seem right

Building a house to completion in this economy is a not a child's play and the fact that she says she's willing to wait for as long as it takes else no marriage is where the real concern is

She may have good intentions but thread with caution no matter how comforting her advice may seem

Too bad she get sense pass you...

Level up, build house first.... Marriage can come later...

Or at least start the project before you marry......

There is nothing as sweet as living in your own house with your family..... She don see the future on your behalf.... Key into her dream before she change her mind go follow man wen get plan and vision pass you

250k to build a house how ??
Or u mean contribution towards land

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

You have the money, then what is stopping you from building your house before even proposing.


The moment you start paying rentage, especially in hundreds of thousands, you will find out that the you would have eaten into the suppose capital, and the building plan either postponed or entirely cancel.


Even the marriage ceremony will first eat into a good chunk of your account, and you will find yourself postponing the necessary until unforseen (which I don't pray for) wreck things.


When you have capital to invest, do it immediately, because something else might make that capital unavailable tomorrow.

OP you need to consult Hakimi ASAP, e get why.

No dey follow woman mouth ooooo

Greattestman:
You will soon learn the hard way since you refuse to be wise.
Idiot!

Why you dey abused am for defending his girlfriend.


Must she be like yours? Even her suggestions is not bad.

OP no get house, and she dey advice OP to build one, is that not a good idea.

Karen2024:
She's a foolish lady! All these for a Nigerian man? Useless gender.

that's why we say women with such wisdom are rare, that's the kind real men want

Samantha124:
Yes, I do.

mention her

Then make she buy for una

LewisHamilton15:
That's just for a start. She promise to contribute much in the process as she also has a well paying job.

My brother, make sure that the name on the land document is yours. Don't be fooled. She may lure you to buy a land with her name. After building it, she will invite her main man and chase you out. Becareful of this gender

Yes, two house 🏠

Unfortunately, I can't.

Solofresh2:
mention her

Karen2024:
She's a foolish lady! All these for a Nigerian man? Useless gender.

Mumu she be better lady
Marry mak u never build house and see urself in same place next 10years
There are blessings that comes been a landlord

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

bro let me give u my own personal experience about issues like this

At first she will drop everything she has n she might even take a loan with/without your consent to finance the project

She will push( what she calls her own motivation) u beyond your normal boundaries that u will find it hard to do others things again cos u would have invested your last penny on d project

Eventually when u are down n u need her to come to your aid she will remind u she’s down too n she’s servicing her loans or doing other things that have been affected due to the project then u will b stranded

I will advise u to get a befitting accommodation, furnish it to your taste n if u have d money pay for 3 or 4 years in advance so u can use those period to plan well n not rush d project

My 2 cent

Building a house isn't something that is rushed because you need to plan it properly. There's no crime living in a rental apartment while planning/ building. Please, do not rush to build a house.

Rubyjade:
Why Sir, but my grandfather built his house when he was hustling

Leave that mumu wen dey talk on a circle, owning a house of your own should comes first.

Investment fit get k-leg.

Atleast ur shelter go help u gather family well

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

which cave all this mumu people dey comot from

I wanted to say this but you beat me to it. this is the best comment ever.
The guy is just a ho**y dude and obviously not thinking well.
Who does joint venture before marriage? You don't even know if your marriage will last one year(of course u will say godforbid) but a lady is already convincing and conditioning you to build a house together with her tiny 250k that can't erect a fence.
Mtcheww Bro masturbate and cum so u can come to ur senses.
That lady ain't ready to marry yet.

Appletek:


Well-paying job but her savings is ordinary 250k.
This girl wants to to ruin you but sex no gree you see front.
You're a big fool

Such women are rare,the ones we have now a days,will use that money to get a wig or an iphone,they wount even tell u they have any savings any where talkless of contributing it,some wount even save self,any money that come thier ways na cloth and shoe
Bro u are lucky

Samantha124:
Unfortunately, I can't.

Go lokile gona.Na nka hwetša seswantšho sa gago

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

listen to her, you will be thankful in the long run

Google translate has suffered...🤣🤣🤣

Solofresh2:
Go lokile gona.Na nka hwetša seswantšho sa gago

izonborn098:
You have a point but how much will this bungalow cost? before we continue...

I’m not sure but the lady said she already has money for part of the land. The rent money can also go towards the land. They should crunch the budget and see how feasible it is before they make their next move.

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

I must say, she is a wise woman, yeah, in this era that girls are in now, they don't really care about your development of yourself, no they will go ahead and say yes, when there is no foundation to sit on top. Well that her saves is nothing if you want to start building a house so the best advice for you, is tell her that building a house is a process, the future is bright and uncertain, you don't know what will happen tomorrow.
Meet someone that is involve in building and ask for the estimate of house that you want to build in future, so that you know what you are preparing for and show her the expenses too so that she will know what it is.. the journey, is not easy I must say yeah..

Is like your girl have this memory of her young self in a rented apartment, so she have experience the mistreatment and the hate, so she does not want to experience that anymore..

You are a daft young man. If you were close to me, I would have flogged you 36 strokes of the cane with fasting for 21 days. You need help cos you have been offered as a burnt offering to your ancestors. How much is that lady’s salary? Does she earn in 7 digits? Even if she earns in 7?digits, do you know how much it will cost you to build a bungalow of 3 rooms? Even the land, how much is a 500sqm sold in your location?That lady doesn’t care about you. Meanwhile, how old are you and how old is she for you to wait until you have completed the building?Please run to OFM, Mountain of Fire, Dunamis Int’l for help

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

u want to build a house and shes bringing 250k. wait till u get married when she start telling u about building together.

run o

Oga to build house nobi moi moi

LewisHamilton15:
I don't understand the reason behind this misguided comment.

Bro she's wise, smart and a good girl


It's a nice advice if you can afford it.

If you marry now and starts having kids. A lot many geared to family responsibilities (school fees and all that). Building will be very hard at that.

If you have money for building of own apartment....... please do it now!

It's a nice advice