izonborn098:
If i were him and my account is below 30m' i would still invested in other important things and then build the house from those profits in two to three years time..
Because the bungalow will cost millions but a house rent for 4years though depend on the type of house u rent will not be more than 1m..
And again i'm not support of two people (man or woman) building house together because many at times it's doesn't end well..

You have sense. People just jump into building houses like it's the first thing, then tell you that they are saving rent. Invest the money, use the gains to pay rent while trying to upscale your investment for your house later. In all these, buying lands is not a bad idea but building houses in the bush because you want to be a house owner is just stupidity.

You're not reasoning in the right direction

Nataliace:
If I were you I would build first.
It's hard to find reasonable women like this nowadays.

It's cool

Solofresh2:
stop making jest of me na

abeg una 2 fit teach me dis una language make i learn so dat i fit friend one s/africa babe

LewisHamilton15:
My girlfriend isn't that type.

You can never learn I swear. Tomorrow you will hear things like " we build this house with my money"

Geniemoi01:
I am sorry sir,but you'll be an idiot to follow the words of a woman. She doesn't mean you well at all! If you wanna build do so with your money from start to finish. She wants to contribute chicken change while planning her escape route with the house should you both divorce. She's already eyeing your future property. You better be wise. If she doesn't want to rent with you, let her go.

All this divorce fantasy, in Nigeria? Some of you have imbibed the red pill to the extent you've forgotten your patriarchal geography. As a seer on his wife, why don't you go ahead to tell him the exact date she will make her dangerous intent known and the date she will divorce him.

It is worrisome there are 15 idiots giving you likes.

Lol.

Samantha124:
So you want my picture?😂😂

Nka ikgokaganya bjang le wena kudu

Wodu89:
She's childish. She wants a house with 250k contribution. Is it a batcher she wants to live in. Smh in Chinese. You both first need to plan how to have four years rentage first and see if you can afford to live as a couple before building castles in the air.

This is brutal

Nataliace:
If I were you I would build first.
It's hard to find reasonable women like this nowadays.

una Dey talk like say e easy to build. See the guy will build it finish in 3 years, then find a younger lady to put inside

Wodu89:
She's childish. She wants a house with 250k contribution. Is it a batcher she wants to live in. Smh in Chinese. You both first need to plan how to have four years rentage first and see if you can afford to live as a couple before building castles in the air.

omo, ;Dyour comment makes me laugh in Chinese.A house with a starting contribution of 250K

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

You have the money! And she too has 250k! How much is the money you have? Do both of you have idea about how much the land and building of a three bedroom flat will cost in an area where you intend to live at the moment?

TimT:
I really wonder how Nd why some men bring every little relationship issues online... Now that girl will be heavily insulted by bitter men online....

Someone told you to build house, knowing the time it takes, she's ready to wait... You no gree, you carry the matter online for some people who doesn't understand one of the financial problems in marriage caused by "House rent", to castigate Ur girl...

It's okay sha.. it's your life... It's your relationship...
You can easily drop the girl and marry the one who doesn't care about anything "Future"...

Only a good wife can give a married man rest in his home, NOBODY ELSE CAN ....

You have problem paying annual house rent, na your own house you wan begin to build? . Na so e easy reach?

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

My guy cause d problem
She can't detate to you.
Na so them take marry her mother.
Nowadays girls just show themselves.bros I de vex when you tell your mom wetin she talk?
Bros oooooo go n rents a cool 2bedroom flat ok if she like make she no come I go give u good woman to marry.
She dey show herself why she no say make una build house before una fucckk abi una no de fuucck since.bros be a man.

Ka maswabi, go ka se kgonege.

Solofresh2:
Nka ikgokaganya bjang le wena kudu

LewisHamilton15:
My girlfriend isn't that type.

i pity men that say this.. A woman can always shock you

Samantha124:
Ka maswabi, go ka se kgonege.

Dump her, don't waste your time.

Bros
U better shine your eyes n be the man
Go n rent your house ok.she dey show herself and u dey fuccck outside.bros I get woman to give you marry just be careful of this one ooooooo ,she can stop you from bring your younger onces to stay in d house

Your girl own even better, at least, she get something to contribute, am average Nigerian girl wan make man get house, car, even when she no dey ready to contribute shishi, nah eleriibu plenty pass among them, just try talk to her and I hope she understands, good luck

Sharpsharp00123:
bro let me give u my own personal experience about issues like this

At first she will drop everything she has n she might even take a loan with/without your consent to finance the project

She will push( what she calls her own motivation) u beyond your normal boundaries that u will find it hard to do others things again cos u would have invested your last penny on d project

Eventually when u are down n u need her to come to your aid she will remind u she’s down too n she’s servicing her loans or doing other things that have been affected due to the project then u will b stranded

I will advise u to get a befitting accommodation, furnish it to your taste n if u have d money pay for 3 or 4 years in advance so u can use those period to plan well n not rush d project

My 2 cent

You have said it very well for the number years let him increase to 6 years so as not to put himself under too much pressure

I'm sure there are a lot of beautiful Nigerian girls who'd love to send you their pictures..

Solofresh2:
Yeah

Trojan8:
The fact some Nigerians are saying she's smart shows how poor most are when it comes to finance.

How's starting a building project without any credible source of income that can generate steady cash flow a good idea? The only thing she cares about is being called a landlady and that's it. Her 250k won't even be enough to take care of her own expenses if you were to plan a wedding today. Same lady is forcing you to build a house and somehow you think it's a good decision.

You tie let's say 20m on a house when if you invest such at 20% per annum, you get 4m. How much is rent again?

You need financial wisdom and not marriage, bozo.

What if the business fail

rainz:
You need to build. No matter how small. Even if u build the boys quarter first. Believe me that your woman get sense no follow people mouth for nairaland.

This is rubbish talk abeg. She's not ready. Unless you're rich or intend to build a slum house you cannot rush into building a house. If you can spare the capital you're even better off building extra income sources first.

Bros, go and read " You Never Know With Women" by James Hadley Chase

A very wise woman indeed .
I wish many women were like her .
Start contributing now ,have a small wedding and start the process of building a house .
What’s she sees you are building a house she will shift ground.
In the discussion did you discuss having kids immediately , the schools they will attend etc ?
She might have a very valid point

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling d


She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

You are her second option bro, if not fifth you cannot propose marriage to a Nigerian girl and she would start given option why she does not want to get married.

As I was typing the above, something just ministered to me that the girls major boyfriend is a cultist or she is, investigate ur girl for cult affiliations bro, once you contribute and build that house whatever level her main boyfriend is ready, they will off you and take possession of your property.

GUY RUN, NO LOVE FOR STREET, na mugu wey no balm dey fall,

If you still think I am lying, introduce her to your pastor let the marriage committee investigate her, that is if you are going to a Bible believing church, if una dey go the same church or your church is fake dem fit give you wrong reply bro.

A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE

Sorry..😐😐

Solofresh2:

You're already failing in marriage by not showing firm leadership.

She marries to join you wherever you live, if she's not ready, kick her out.

The reason she's insisting on building a house together before marriage is because she wants a position that would make separation hard...why is she thinking of this?

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

Karen2024:
She's a foolish lady! All these for a Nigerian man? Useless gender.

She is not foolish. She is a good woman abeg..

Reasonable or controlling?

He shouldn't continue with the marriage until he knows her true intentions! Why will you be building a house with a woman you've not married?

Nataliace:
If I were you I would build first.
It's hard to find reasonable women like this nowadays.

LewisHamilton15:
My girlfriend isn't that type.

You may wake up when it is already late. All women are of one type - self centred and greedy. It is not because they are bad, it is their nature. Her proposal only serves her sinister interest which may not be clear at this time. It is great wisdom to marry your wife into your own house first before giving thought to any proposal for joint investment. Allow her one kobo into that project at this time and see what a woman is made of. Many men have already been destroyed, please be careful.