if the man cant prostrate wetin im dey find for house where dem dey prostrate?

Was he dragged there?

i'm sorry, the guy don tire for the girl.

Outstrip:

And so after he has prostrated what does it do for the girl's family. Do they now have everlasting life and peace of mind? Mscheeeeew

. . . what exactly is your issue with prostrating?

udezue:

I have a yoruba friend. went to her house on thanxgivin and the mom told me after i greeted them that i should prostrate. Hell naw

LMFAO!!!!! na wa

@Topic, the guy should have just 'prostrated' if he really cared about the girl. I won't 'prostrate' to anyone either except for marriage.

ChinenyeN:

. . . what exactly is your issue with prostrating?

Thank you for helping me ask oooo

rubbish of d highest other. what was he thinking b4? dat he was only going to shake hands with all the elders on seat. even d bible too said it that we shld respect our parents, not just our biological parent, in as much as they ar older.

Hello everyone.

I'm Yoruba like many of you here.

But I do have a problem with prostrating to someone even older than me. When doing "doba'le" it doesn't mean that you respect the person. In fact I know many yorubas who do "doba'le" but still disrespect elders in other ways. So all these doesn't make sense at all. Respect is earned not forced on someone. (please read the whole stuff before gettin angry, be patient)

In case you don't know, God Almighty said not to prostrate to anyone except Him alone in the Bible, Quran, etc, If you're a strong christian or muslim you should know better. And prostration is a form of worship but in a lesser form. And all worship should be for God alone whether small or big.

Prostration means that you lower yourself before someone, making him/her greater than you. Only God is The Great not humans.

If Yoruba culture was so good how come we always fight each other for minor things, how come black people hates each other, in fact how come Africa is always the last in the world?

And last thing Yorubas themselves need to know where the culture come from before enforcing it on someone. But sadly, many yorubas don't know their history they just blindly follow elders tales who don't know anything themselves. (Trust me, it's true)

One hint for you guys (read proper history), is that Yoruba culture comes from paganism, which is against God Almighty's Laws.

Now I do respect elders more than many Yorubas claim, as the Holy Books required. I'm not calling them by name, insulting them, ignoring, shouting on them, etc, But I do help, cherish, be kind to them and I get them gifts among other respectful things. That's what's meant by respect in the Holy Books.

Only part-time christians and muslim don't understand that.

I know many of you will disagree with the above but it's alright. I can understand when something is been so blended in people's mind it's so hard to remove. I went through that phase before but I'm now free from that.

See the bigger picture and open your mind. Read, read, read, There are good things as well as bad things in a culture, not all cultures are perfect.
Remember Yoruba culture mostly comes from paganism (oricha, spirits, sacrifice, etc, ) again read more books and research,

the guy is not even serious
how many non nigerians have married into the yoruba culture and have had the parents place their feet on the groom's back?
everything in a yoruba traditional marriage is symbolic
do u think the girl kneeling before her parents and in-laws is for joke also?

ko ni reason
i find it hard to believe that the guy was totally oblivious of that aspect of the ceremony
c'mon arent there rehearsals?
abeggi jare make i hear word

Any man refusing to prostate to my mother is reallllly not serious about me

Its called respect, we should all learn it

Yorubas take respect to elders seriously not to talk of your inlaws.

Your inlaws are giving out their daughter to you to marry shows they trust you and feel you are responsible. What does it cost you to prostrate for a few minutes. Respect for other peoples culture is one thing we should imbibe as Nigerians. I was in the North where u have to remove your shoes and sit on the mat in front of elders I did it and it didnt hurt. It shows that you are well brought up and responsible.

Didnt Barack Obama bow for the King of Saudi? Did that make him less of a President or did it make the King of Saudi the most powerful man in the world?

Yorubas take respect seriously and are not known for waking up their parents with kicks.

Why was he just knowing on wedding? These are things dat Shd av been discussed b4 wedding day.

Lol what a joker. No wife for him then.

later all these westernized fellas and gals will be dancing to i'd do anything for love - i will do anything for you - ain't no valley low enough

someone needs to come up with a song tuned into african values

eg

i will take 100 lashes for you
i will pay million naira brideprice for you
i will crawl on my parachute for you

rotfl. that's complicated i tell ya. why don't they just go do church wedding and handshake? all the cultural differences will cause conflict in traditional wedding.

LOL!! The guys a stupid Guy that left with his Pride, morals and values intact,

His stupid for not being ready and aware he would have to make small sacrifices especially if marrying into a different tribe,

I wouldnt have done it either,

Lady Dee:


LOL!! The guys a stupid Guy that left with his Pride, morals and values intact,

His stupid for not being ready and aware he would have to make small sacrifices especially if marrying into a different tribe,

I wouldnt have done it either,

u guyz are joking right??

Prostrate to Who?? Why and for What

Which kin Yeye prostrate be that? His inlaws should understand that he comes from a diffrent culture and respect that 2. No be prostrate they go chop

African man mentality, o boy i tireooooo

sage:

u guyz are joking right??

Prostrate to Who?? Why and for What

Which kin Yeye prostrate be that? His inlaws should understand that he comes from a diffrent culture and respect that 2. No be prostrate they go chop

African man mentality, o boy i tireooooo

Are you serious?

His inlaws should understand what??!!! More like he should understand and try to adjust to the traditions of his new family.

Can you ask your parents to not perform one of their traditional gestures anymore? Just because you brought home an oyibo wife?

Infact, that's very disrespectful.

Whatz disrespectful? Not falling to the ground Uve got to be kidding me.

So only if he falls to the ground is he respectful? The only way he is respectful is if he falls to the ground and if he does not prostrate he is a disrespectful person?

Guy are u hearing urself at all?

Prostrating has nothing, i repeat not a single thing to do with somebody beign respectful or not

sage:

Whatz disrespectful? Not falling to the ground Uve got to be kidding me.

So only if he falls to the ground is he respectful? The only way he is respectful is if he falls to the ground and if he does not prostrate he is a disrespectful person?

Guy are u hearing urself at all?

sage:

Prostrating has nothing, i repeat not a single thing to do with somebody beign respectful or not

You're right and you're wrong.

Prostrating is not only about respect, its tradition, its a symbol to unmodernized Nigerians. Unmodernized in the sense that they still believe in the old ways.

Telling her parents to "understand" his foolish behavior is disrespectful.

Okay, imagine. She has an older brother, older than her ex who refused to prostrate. Her older brother walks in and prostrate, then this young idiotic boy walks in like a dundee and doesn't prostrate. Thats rude.

And how could the dundee just leave her becuause of a minor thing like prostrating? I think he got tired of the r/ship, or does he think he's bigger than his elders?

FL Gators:

You're right and you're wrong.

Prostrating is not only about respect, [b]its tradition, its a symbol to unmodernized Nigerian. [/b]Unmodernized in the sense that they still believe in the old ways.

Telling her parents to "understand" his foolish behavior is disrespectful.

Okay, imagine. She has an older brother, older than her ex who refused to prostrate. Her older brother walks in and prostrate, then this young idiotic boy walks in like a dundee and doesn't prostrate. Thats rude.

And how could the dundee just leave her becuause of a minor thing like prostrating? I think he got tired of the r/ship, or does he think he's bigger than his elders?

Gbam, whether we like it or not.

He is from Edo and she is Yoruba. He said he will not prostrate to any man except GOD.

u guys are forgetting this part of his quote. it's not that he's doing it out of disrespect or haughtiness. he just doesn't want to compromise his own personal belief/values.
that's why the situation is tricky.

oyinda.:

u guys are forgetting this part of his quote. it's not that he's doing it out of disrespect or haughtiness. he just doesn't want to compromise his own personal belief/values.
that's why the situation is tricky.

Okiez, got it now.


Sage, pele. Misunderstood situation

oyinda.:

u guys are forgetting this part of his quote. it's not that he's doing it out of disrespect or haughtiness. he just doesn't want to compromise his own personal belief/values.
that's why the situation is tricky.

Well he is still a new idiot. If he had thought about that before, why did he bother asking for a Yoruba woman's hand in marriage. Man like that who isn't ready to compromise is surely not ready to get married to his new wife.

Agree with the above.

maybe he believes he's marrying the wife not the wife's family. u can't really know until u hear the wife's opinion on the matter. but either way he's setting his marriage up for disaster. the in-laws will show him serious pepper i bet

Shouldn't stop him from recognizing that he is marrying into a different environment where marriage ceremonies are handled differently. If he's not ready for something "different" why did he marry into a different culture?

they both failed imo, because the discussion should have been had prior to "" day

yea they shld have discussed it. i wonder if it was at a edo wedding or yoruba wedding sef.

twas most definitely not an edo wedding. . .we dont do prostrate's. . .lol

this guy makes me feel ashamed as an edo boy(see the way ppl are quoting the posts next thing someone'll say thats how edo ppl r. . .lol)
personlly i rarely prostrate(i only do it when i want to make the person feel special) and i've noticed a lot of my relatives dont, but haba now. . .its marriage, omo me i will overdo it sef(sey the parents will come and wake me up the next morning to come and prostrate again nii?)
i'm with debosky et al o. . .the guy didnt want to do


p.s. has anyone noticed this thread is ancient!

netotse, I thought you were yoruba

@fl gators
half. . .u know we edo men are hawt like that. . .dem ladies jst cant get enough!(yoruba, hausa, ibo)