Shy-One:

@ r231

You are correct - I agree with you.  She must ask him or at least open her mouth and share what is going on with her with him so he can of his own volition offer if he is inclined to do so and not call him names.

On a side note - the wedding album that I keep looking at over and over again on your profile - did you have that professionally done in Nigeria? - How can shy-one get the information from you on who did this for you?

I love it very much.

oh yea

it was done in 9ja. . . .

the guys name is moses 08037229303, 08022278212, 07042112020

r231:

she said that she dont like asking

that the guy suppose to be a mind reader

he was suppose to offer without asking

The only way the guy wouldn't know if his girl doesn't need anything if they are living in separate housing and she is jobless.  

Don't like asking and have never asked are two different things.  You can ask someone indirectly or directly and if the person still do not get it then that an issue on both sides.  

You can tell whether someone is stingy or not by the way they conduct themselves and what they say about certain things.

rman:

@Pendo89
You are indeed blessed and Almighty God will continue to add more power of reasoning to that wonderful mind of yours. All your replies to this topic are so on point. You are on course to living a very happy and fufilled life. Cheers

She no be naija chic so you suppose understand. Big thumbs up for the chic men.

Mrs, Chima:

The only way the guy wouldn't know if his girl doesn't need anything if they are living in separate housing and she is jobless.  

Don't like asking and have never asked are two different things.  You can ask someone indirectly or directly and if the person still do not get it then that an issue on both sides.  

You can tell whether someone is stingy or not by the way they conduct themselves and what they say about certain things.  

you know what, I am like that and my wife knws that i am not stingy

its just the way that i am programmed. . . . . . so you have to ask me

just cus you are telling me dont mean you want my help and my wife clearly understand that yea she have to ask me if needed. . . . . well that was b4 we got married

r231:



oh yea

it was done in 9ja. . . .

the guys name is moses 08037229303, 08022278212, 07042112020

Thank you very much

Mrs, Chima:

The only way the guy wouldn't know if his girl doesn't need anything if they are living in separate housing and she is jobless.  

Don't like asking and have never asked are two different things.  You can ask someone indirectly or directly and if the person still do not get it then that an issue on both sides.  

You can tell whether someone is stingy or not by the way they conduct themselves and what they say about certain things.  

You know Chima - you are right - you can tell if someone is stingy - I like to use the word "frugal" - but they mean the same thing in many instances - not all instances - but most instances.

I love a frugal man - as long as he isn't frugal "with me" - you can be frugal and teach me how to be "frugal" but with each other - when I ask for something - I expect you to "make it happen" - because It will be rare when I ask you for anything so the rare occasions that I need to hit your wallet - I expect and do need you to be available to me - I love money so I make my own and I make plenty of it - but many times I have invested in areas where I am not "liquid" and I need cash at those times - and if my man cannot assist me during those times - woe be unto him.

i dont blame the narrow minded women who think that dating a man means that he should cater for all their financial needs. i dont even blame the women who think that loving someone means that you should do whatever THEY ask you to. i also dont blame the women who are quick to call any man "stingy" just because he was not willing to part with his hard earned cash (for whatever reason). . . . . . . . .
I BLAME THE BASTARDS who pretend to be who they are not and spend lavishly on these 25kobo biatches, who then get used to such treatment and therefore expect any future guy they date to pay for their company. I BLAME THE BASTARDS who are so desperate for coochie that they will unwillingly pay for fear of being se.x starved. I BLAME THE BASTARDS that cannot be honest with these goldigging skanks by telling them exactly what time it is!

Shy-One:

Thank you very much

kool

the rest of the picture is on our site. . . . . see link below

Frugal men ARE WONDERFUL

Just wonderful because when you have spent through your resources on household goods, etc. and for needs of the family.

If there is a problem with the refrigerator or water heater or car going out - your frugal man has saved in the thousands and can jump in and take care of big ticket items and pull the fear and worry and stress out of your world.

Men who spend money too much or faster than women spend it - I keep a large stick and huge space between me and them - I don't need or want anyone who spends faster than I spend in my life.

One of us needs to have a cool head and needs to be in control at all times.  So we aren't in the poor house.

MRbrownJAY:

i dont blame the narrow minded women who think that dating a man means that he should cater for all their financial needs. i dont even blame the women who think that loving someone means that you should do whatever THEY ask you to. i also dont blame the women who are quick to call any man "stingy" just because he was not willing to part with his hard earned cash (for whatever reason). . . . . . . . .
I BLAME THE BASTARDS who pretend to be who they are not and spend lavishly on these 25kobo biatches, who then get used to such treatment and therefore expect any future guy they date to pay for their company. I BLAME THE BASTARDS who are so desperate for coochie that they will unwillingly pay for fear of being se.x starved. I BLAME THE BASTARDS that cannot be honest with these goldigging skanks by telling them exactly what time it is!

ahahahahahahahahahahah - oooooo - goshhhhh - lololololololol

u are crazy - u caught me completely off guard with this one - you trickster - lolololololol - i thought you were on our side and then you snapped out in the second paragraph.

ahahahahahahahaha - oooooo - my side it hurts.

r231:

you know what, I am like that and my wife knws that i am not stingy

its just the way that i am programmed. . . . . . so you have to ask me

just cus you are telling me dont mean you want my help and my wife clearly understand that yea she have to ask me if needed. . . . . well that was b4 we got married

You are stingy!!!!  I asked you to buy me a singlet and you went on sabbatical for nine weeks!

Mrs, Chima:

You are stingy!!!!  I asked you to buy me a singlet and you went on sabbatical for nine weeks!

hahahaha. . . . . not only singlet, i will buy you wife beater too

@ r231

That link - wooooowweeee - I love it - the music is BANGING TOO - I have always loved that song too.

The photos are just vibrant and beautiful.

Thank you for sharing.

r231:

hahahaha. . . . . not only singlet, i will buy you wife beater too

With the flowers?

Do u know if he is supporting his younger ones? And an investment on gf has no guarantee. I once bought chics in d month of june, after feeding, caring 4 d chics, few days 2 xmas they grown fowls were stolen. If i had known i would ve just saved d money i spent 2 buy nd feed d fowls 4 d 6months i was training them, which would ve given me more and sure meat 4 xmas. It pained me o. Talk more of investing 4 God knows how many years.

if you ask me, na who i go ask, the matter way dey for ground ee havy for ear/mouth

@ r231, I have to agree with you - if you don't ask the other person doesn't know.  In any case, how do we know if the OP is aware of her man's financial situation or commitments (btw like Shy-One I do spend time admiring y'all pics  )

@ Lovedgal, I have been in your situation and you know what? I never asked, I made do.  Like Pendo89 said, my trust was in God, not family nor friends, and I made it through, in spite of deferring entry to Uni until I could get myself financially sorted out.  Didn't regret it because I refused to lose focus.

The choice is yours, but remember, don't link "love" with "help".  Helping a spouse is very different to helping a girlfriend. Very different type of relationships.

IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU KNOW WITHOUT DECIEVING URSELF. SOME GUYS GIVES YOU ALL YOU WANT IN PREPARATION FOR WHEN U WILL LOOSE UR GUARD AND ONCE THE TARGET IS MET, OFF THEY FLEE.


SO USE UR BRAIN AND DONT BE CARRIED AWAY BY THOSE PENNY !!!!!!!!1

If you are into that relationship because of financial help and you are not getting it as you imply, then, quit. Whereby you accepted him because you love him, love him the more and allow the love to grow to something better. When you are able to sincerely define the reason both of you are going out, it will help you decide on what to do. Again, we do not know the financial strength of the guy, his family burden as well as the level of assistance he renders to you, though little, you said but little is relative. All these shld be factored in.

These girls have nothing to offer, after all they'll say naija guys these, naija guys dat. What can you bring to the table? Ever asked yourself that question? Why are you girls stingy? And just expect the giving thing be one way, only goes your direction. Never taught about how you can make the life of the guy better. I look around I see only p*ssies with nothing to offer. And p*ssies without brain means nothing. I rather self-service!

Shy-One:

ahahahahahahahahahahah - oooooo - goshhhhh - lololololololol

u are crazy - u caught me completely off guard with this one - you trickster - lolololololol - i thought you were on our side and then you snapped out in the second paragraph.

ahahahahahahahaha - oooooo - my side it hurts.

i mean, imagine what the poster is saying:"since we are having se.x together, (and you say you love me), YOU MUST TAKE CARE OF MY FINANCIAL NEEDS, regardless of your financial situation OR if you agree or not. failure to oblige will mean you are stingy (or do not love me)."
some people clearly have no idea what loving/caring for someone means!!!

i will always be on the side of "whats fair" (IMO). . . . . . . .  now, if a woman expects me to pay for all her financial needs SIMPLY because WE are dating or having se.x then i would say that "THIS IS A VERY BAD DEAL!!!!!"

sadly, many men quickly fall for this scam!!!

YOU HAVE 11K IN YOUR ACCOUNT, YOU TRANSFER 5K , TO DISCOVER THAT HER BALANCE IS 145K. YET SHE SCREAMSSSSSSSSS YOU ARE NOT GIVING ME MONEY. HIGH TIME LADIES DEFINE WAT THEY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP OR LEAVE THE STAGE FOR WILLING LADIES.

 I BLAME SOME LOW SELF ESTEEM GUYS WHO DON'T BLIV HAVING ME IS GOOD FOR YOU BUT GO TO THE EXTENT OF BEING INDEBTED TO SATISFY A LADY'S ENDLESS FINANCIAL WANT.

@lovedgal: U are the type of girl that me and my friend call Hungry Girl! (I drive a Nissan Sunny and I work for a Quantity Surveying firm in Abuja. I live in a One bedroom+ Sitting Room Apartment so I am not broke). It is not a guy's responsiblilty to be giving you money! I only date girls that can stand for themselves since I left University, the moment I see you are just asking and asking I leave. A lot of girls would complain like this but after collecting and collecting the guy's money while in school they would walk out of the relationship! I DON'T DATE UR TYPES ANY MORE!, HUNGRY GIRLS LOOKING FOR GUYS TO SUPPORT THEM! WHAT OF IF YOU ARE NOT DATING HIM, , WOULD YOU DIE, Be smart, some guys get pissed off by ur attitude. If he is going to give u fine, if he doesn't then let it be!

@lovegal, i do not agree to the fact that you are lazy, golddigger, opportunist, and all other negative comments about you, your assumption that he is stingy, may be wrong, you have not asked him. Also, the guy may be testing you, to know whether you really love him or for material things. Please find time to sit him down, then ask politely for help, everybody needs help one way or the other, even those people that are saying you are an opportunist do not live in isolation, we defnitely need help one way or the other, so ask for it politely, if he decides to help, thank him, if not look elsewhere for help. God bless you, God2man. the other, so ask for it politely, if he decides to help, thank him, if not look elsewhere for help. God bless you, God2man.

There was a girl (her name is Blessing) I was dating that was asking me for N25,000 because she was broke, some months earlier she had given me her password to her email because she wanted me to send a Job application. I checked her email and she had a total of N320,000 in GTB and FinBank! Guys be smart, these girls play these sillly tricks to increase their bank accounts! Thank GOD i had not given her the money before I checked her email!

this topic has reduced my respect for Mrs Chima.(less 5% only)

ZE:

this topic has reduced my respect for Mrs Chima.(less 5% only)

All because I said the girl didn't tell the whole story? Reduce it to 100% and ride on MBJ's balls.

NubiLove:

There was a girl (her name is Blessing) I was dating that was asking me for N25,000 because she was broke, some months earlier she had given me her password to her email because she wanted me to send a Job application. I checked her email and she had a total of N320,000 in GTB and FinBank! Guys be smart, these girls play these sillly tricks to increase their bank accounts! Thank GOD i had not given her the money before I checked her email!

She was dumb.

At poster I think ur bf is afraid of spending for u and u will spend 4 another guy with his money or that after spending 4 u thourgh skul another guy go come snatch u away 4rm him as long as u are not his wife dont depend on him to solve ur financial problems cus its not his resposibility

^^ isn't it what most of these hungry criminals do?!

NubiLove:

There was a girl (her name is Blessing) I was dating that was asking me for N25,000 because she was broke, some months earlier she had given me her password to her email because she wanted me to send a Job application. I checked her email and she had a total of N320,000 in GTB and FinBank! Guys be smart,  these girls play these sillly tricks to increase their bank accounts! Thank GOD i had not given her the money before I checked her email!

that criminal gal would quickly told you that the 320K is meant for something else while YOUR money is meant for her upkeep!
these types are no better than 419ers/romance scam artist!

Mrs, Chima:

All because I said the girl didn't tell the whole story?  Reduce it to 100% and ride on MBJ's balls.  

my balls are only meant for smacking against coochie, pls desist from using my balls in any of your hom.osexual insults.

TeSlim bro, you're hilarious LOL

MRbrownJAY:



my balls are only meant for smacking against coochie, pls desist from using my balls in any of your hom.osexual insults.

No homo insult intended.  But you spoke about bastards and I was directing him to your balls as your post.