Sad Story. . .May the good Lord comfort your distressed soul. .

eejo: Hello take my advice get to abuja for I v f and get your baby am a medical personel without a baby now you will loose every thing so go to nisa perimer hospital the earlier the better pls don't do anything to the girl

Which kind of village advert is this;adapting a profession& circumstances to suit d story& advertise a hospital.I can bet u are no where near a 'medical personel',if u are u must b a lab hand 4u not 2 av any medical ethics.
@Op,story sounds sadly true,just find d inner strength to trojan on,fight for what is ur share of d marriage,but dnt hurt d salegirl or d child,what has happened has happened

I sympathise with what you are going through Cassa.
If I were you I won't fold my hands and allow some fr*eaking people come in between my marriage.
I will fight for the peace and sanity of my marriage, by fighting I don't mean physical altercation.
How on earth and who in this age still throws two women(ibiriachis) together in one house in the name of marrying two wives. People that do that have the decency nowadays to make diffferent homes for the women.

What kind of living will it be for you to be waking up everyday in that house in such triangular marriage? Do they know what they are starting at all? They may be starting a war that may take heads if care is not taken. Give it months and years and some bad/negative feelings may start driving some to using poison and visiting herbalists and the negative vibes/badtalking and malice that will be garnishing it all.
REFUSE HER ENTRANCE IN YOUR HOME. Let him go and make another home for her. If they tell you that you have no right to be there for having no child tell them that the marriage certificate didn't state so and that you will still have kids for your husband.
How on earth are they sure that the child is that of your husband's with the way stuffs are happening nowadays?

This is the second or third time that I am mentioning that married women should be careful about bringing ladies into their homes or even business, it is true that a man can still do this with strangers if not the persons around you yet it is better women have their eyes open with things happening around them with regards to their husband. It is not about being insecure , it is about using one's brain, making it work for you in such a way that moves are detected earlier and curtailed in time.

Girl, sit down and work out the peace of your marriage. Don't allow strangers to come in and walk all over you like that and take over your home, bed, sanity, dignity, man---almost everything. How can one survive this ordeal? What the *!!!

eyah, you still love him kwa i feel you lady, i feel you.
we are blinded by love. I hope he still loves you too so that he will consider your pains and do good as he plan the future.

it is all about you and the decision is yours.
not sure if you plan to do the iyale and iyawo thingy.
hopefully you don't become 2nd class in the house you sweat to build.
stay well and lots of hugs to you.

armyofone: stay put in that house? i wouldn't. we will settle in court and you take your part and I take mine and move on. And If i can afford a good lawyer, you will get nada!
i wouldn't want to be part of the marriage.
did he stop to think that stress might have had a way for your inability to get pregnant? instead of reducing your workload
to make you rest and do less, he was busy servicing your store keeper.
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mazaje, do you think the husband will be interested in ivf at this stage? [/b]I think IVF in the next marriage definitely not in this one.
OP, I hope you really know how to deal with that man. give him a bitter pill to swallow.

If the wife is a good wife
I am sure he will do any thing it takes to make her happy

KINGwax: Let's hit the facts,
how many abortion(s) did u guys had or you especially wit those ur aristos. Or while u've been claiming to be all faithful what exactly went wrong? Let's talk karma, cos it really goes bad for some set of people without reasons i can outrightly explain.

[size=14pt]thank u. its a pity that women pretend that karma does not exist. @op,play ur life like a nollywood movie and see where u went wrong.i Have seen ladies do attrociuos things and expect to enjoy marital bliss. My neighbour is dating a married man and expect him to divorce d present wife b4 d end of this yr.Infact the divorce process has started. She told me that he expect to enjoy marital bliss when she marries this guy.Just imagine. u ladies cant be real. IF U HAVE BEEN TOTALLY INNOCENT,PLS GOD FORGIVE ME .IF U HAVE BEEN TOTALLY INNOCENT,MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND PAY THE LITTLE B.ITCH IN HER OWN COIN.A day will come when the little bi.tch will come to nairaland and seek for our sympathy.we cant be doing that.

@ATTACKERS,CABL ETC,READ AND COMPREHEND WHAT I WROTE B4 U ATTACK ME.[/size]

Why is life always unfair to good people and very fair to the bad?

The good girls are still single while the bad waste no time in getting partners.

Just be patient. though difficult to ask for, but you just have to try and be very prayerful.

mark my words, in less than 3 years time you won't have just one child but at least2 beautiful kids.

God alway has a way of compensating the cheated and righteous.

as for your husband, he is mean.

A script plagiarised from a Nollywood movie

Nigerian men

OP, I feel your pain. You have been betrayed, the only thing I can say is that do whatever you know will make you happy once again (under the circumstances) without harming any of the other parties involved. Nemesis is potent by itself!

free2ryhme: where did u copy dis story from

dt is a very unfair thg to say to her! I'm sure u knw stuff like dis happens all time in real life, so pl dont just strt thnkg dis story is made up!

I feel pained by your situation and sincerely pray for wisdom to pull through. Your husband has failed but that home remains your home. You will have your baby IJN
For the rest of us I picked two lessons from the story.
1. No matter how busy you are keep an eye on your home. Sometimes we succeed building our career, businesses and houses only to discover we’ve lost our homes.
2. For the ladies, when your husband request (directly or indirectly), that your maid, sister, sales girl should go. Use your 6th sense to decode. He may know his weakness and may want to avoid temptation or he’s already being tempted.

Cassa! Cassa! Cassa! Listen to these words that i will speak to you.
Your husband and your employee stabbed you in the back. correct!
To make them pay dearly for what they have done, just show them LOVE! LOVE!! and more LOVE!!!. It hurt more than being offensive.
Don't plan to stay away from your husband. Don't try to harm the lady or the unborn baby. Don't try to be rude to any of them or your inlaws. Just show love to everybody even your inlaws. Don't take the work of God and judge them.
When, i say when because i know you will, you finally get pregnant and have a baby, that baby will not be ordinary.
Think of Abraham and sarah in the Bible. Many women in the bible that people thought were barren and finally gave borth did not give birth to ordinary baby. They were important people that we make mention to in the bible.
Forget what they have done. Forgive them. people will want to advice you otherwise, but that is not God's counsel.
Move forward with your life and i tell you, YOU WILL HAVE A VERY IMPORTANT BABY ONEDAY.
I SPEAK TO YOUR WOMB TODAY, BE FRUITFUL! I SPEAK GOD'S WORD TO HIM, "HE SAID GO AND MULTIPLY". AND MULTIPLY SHALL YOU MULTIPLY IN JESUS NAME. AMEN.

i dont just know what to say but i just pray God dont punish dat yur sales girl.
forgive yur husband and try show love around and God will answer u,
dont live in de past pls.

may God be yur strenght, amem

This is really sad. But you have a decision to make. Do you still want to be with your husband or not? If you still want to be with him, then it's time to be extremely proactive about having a kid. I'm sorry but I don't trust Nigerian doctors, so if you guys have the means, travel abroad and get a complete diagnosis on why you have not had a kid. If everything is allright, but an ovulation meter, determine when you are on ovulation and have the man fire you several times on that day.

I don't know how much leverage you have on your husband, but you must try to convince him to not let the girl move in the house.

I would suggest you stay put in the marriage, be the best wife you can be for him and the best friend of the new wife. It would do you no good crying over spilt milk as the deed has already been done and any attempt to fight back would only aggravate your hurt and not help you feel any better. Love them both whole heartedly although I know this is difficult but the truth is life in itself is never fair and the best you can do for yourself is to enjoy it while it last. Above all, trust God with all your heart and in the right season he would give you your child.

Staying in the house will not help your emotional state.You need to leave the house for a while.No matter how long you stay in the house as the first wife,the woman with his kid will always take precedence over you.Leave the house

Sorry sh..t happens.

But really ladies, which man doesn't cheat huuuuh? Show me, which part of the world they reside??

But my advice to all ladies is always expect the worst in any man, that way you will be less disappointed when the worst happens.

Even those of you who think that your husbands are ANGEL RAPHAEL, think twice. The fact that he has not come forwards regarding his extramarital affairs or illigitimate kids does not mean he doesn't have.

I admire and respect your husband for being honest about it. Some men they keep the second family for years without the wife knowing about them and he would be maintaining them and making time for them as well. I understand that it was not the initial agreement, but for that I admire him.

I despise him for expecting you to live with the same woman in the same house.

But forgive him, he has a big heart, big enough to accomodate all of you.

Carry on with your bizniz ( personal and business ) and don't stress.Focus on doing the things you love, travel etc. that will give you time to heal. PUSH ( Pray Until Something Happens .

Ladies stop making man your Quasi God, God is a jealous God. Once he sees that you serve another God he takes the god away to get your attention.

Have some self talk and introspection and start redirecting your energy to the one who never disappoints. But don't move out of your house, man are the same, its just that now you know what your man has been up to while majority of us have no idea what our men have been up to.

This maid can kill you just to be the de facto Madam of the house so beware

I don't know what to say..
Somehow, ur husband hasn't changed, he just fell into temptation,
And when he tried to confide in his family, dey manipulated everythin..
Please.. 4give him, dats d first step towards winning him back.
Den talk with him.. If u start up arguments, he cud flare up, and maybe get more attached to the girl.



So sorry...

What a world.

I might sound harsh, direct but realistic...@OP please check your past life - Have you dated a married man before?(No one should attack cos girls of these days do it and I am only trying to offer advice) If yes go and apologise to the lady you went out with her husband then beg for forgiveness after which you will be surprised at the sudden turn around that will come into your life. Remember not pray over it with any pastor without going to ask for forgiveness.

If you did nothing of such then be patient, accept the new lady but not under same roof then be prayerful. I wish you all the best but that man needs a knock on the head.

colly227: I might sound harsh, direct but realistic...@OP please check your past life - Have you dated a married man before?(No one should attack cos girls of these days do it and I am only trying to offer advice) If yes go and apologise to the lady you went out with her husband then beg for forgiveness after which you will be surprised at the sudden turn around that will come into your life. Remember not pray over it with any pastor without going to ask for forgiveness.

If you did nothing of such then be patient, accept the new lady but not under same roof then be prayerful. I wish you all the best but that man needs a knock on the head.

HUUuuuuuuhhh, who died and made you God or big Prophet sitting on Gods golden left. Who told you that if you dated a married man prior, then these are the repurcussion.

free2ryhme: where did u copy dis story from

.... Nollywood crap

look @ dis girls feeling bitter because girl get belle for anoda woman's husband. wetin be d big deal about dis. hw many of u no dey chop anoda woman's ponmo. abeg

@op
If you were my sister and the decision was mine to make;
- I would prefer alive as a divorcee than dead as a 1st wife
- I would prefer you happy as a spinster than unhappy in a home with all odds against you
- I would prefer you as a successful woman bearing our father's name than a married woman who's held in contempt
Some might be of the opinion that fighting for your man might be the best bet but I believe if its yours, you wouldn't need to fight
This is my opinion though I ve been known to think differently

take things easy, you work for yourself to make your life better. your husband is not chasing out of the house even if you had a child that doesn't stop the man from what he did. that's the culture of men. look at Arnold S. case and many other big men cases in the world.

Continue praying don't go Babalawo house otherwise someone is going to lost life in this situation! this is from life experience. I'm from polygamy house myself.

I wouldn't blame Ɣ☺ΰ in anyway,when Ɣ☺ΰ r in love a lot happens and we don't see them.betrayal is the worst thing that one can ever experience especially coming from a loved one.I almost died of heart break last year,I think I knw how Ɣ☺ΰ feel.God will see you through.once there is the sun and the moon,Ɣ☺ΰ r husband and the new wife must suffer.quote me

These sories ar getin 2 much. She needs solution people

dayokanu: Don't stay in the same house with the girl.

Who knows, the girl might be having a grand plan of her own on how to become Madam

I agree with this. Make your husband get her a place of her own.

chineloSA:



HUUuuuuuuhhh, who died and made you God or big Prophet sitting on Gods golden left. Who told you that if you dated a married man prior, then these are the repurcussion.

Karma is natural so expect same if you have slept with someone's husband.

Listen, your case is not a problem for God to solve. For you to receive a blessing from God, express forgiveness to both and love the lady. I know is going to be hard but forgive and allow God to take control. By the child coming into the family and your ability to forgive,love and care for the lady and the child, will go a long way for God to open your womb. Ask God to bring peace into this home. Ask God for this lady not to be fetish in life. The greatest thing you can do is to forgive your husband. Devil is trying to destroy your peace as devil will always look for homes where there is peace to destroy. God will give you the wisdom to handle this. Do NOT be jealous over this lady, rather ask God to visit you and wipe away you tears. No matter how you are been provoked, never allow the spirit of anger and unforgiving to take control of your life. If you display anger over this lady, you can never get pregnant.